Anonymous asked: Thank you :)

You’re welcome! (?) :-)

dating sites.

This isn’t necessarily a sex question, but I’m looking for some advice. I recently joined a dating website, and have gone on a couple of dates with a guy. I can see this relationship going somewhere, but I’m kind of embarrassed to tell people how we met. Any suggestions?

Honesty. Really. Dating sites aren’t that uncommon anymore and you should be proud of your accomplishments. Yeah, I met him online. I weeded through all those other people and found this one. And then we really clicked. There shouldn’t be any shame in it. It’s a thing. And if it works, it works. If you want to be vague you can always say “we met online” but it will likely only further the conversation and end up with the same result.

If you do decide you want to make up a cover story, do it with your partner. You can think of something clever that never happened and have it be your little secret. Just don’t make something up on your own. Your partner will probably find out and be confused as to why you’re telling everyone lies. Not a good way to start a foundation for something new.

But honestly I stand by “I met them on a dating site” because we should all be proud and stand by the decisions that we make. Particularly when they yield excellent 

on formspring and being rude

Someone closed their Formspring account, stating that “Formspring is a cesspool for creepy, rude and generally unnecessary questions.” Agree/disagree? Your thoughts?

I neither agree nor disagree. It hasn’t been my experience. I’m incredibly fortunate and have only had a select few questions that I’ve had to delete because they were rude or disrespectful.

The thing with allowing people to be anonymous is that you give them the ability to be cowards. They can say the things that rest within the depths of the acid in their stomach. The things that shouldn’t ever be regurgitated. And whether it makes them feel better about themselves, or makes them feel as though they’re helping you or whatever their logic (or circle-logic) may be, it’s just not worth the time getting upset about.

Formspring is a useful tool for me. I’ve answered almost 1,000 (991 to date) questions since I started using it. And weeding through the occasional idiot is worth keeping the service up for people to use the way it was meant to be used.

Another thing that is relevant to mention: watch where you link your formspring. If you only link your formspring on facebook, it’s probably going to be your “friends” saying those creepy/rude/unnecessary things. If you post it on your website, or a forum, or link it out for the entire world to see… well, the more you link the more you’re going to get in return.

If I linked mine out and got nothing relevant back I would assume that people weren’t taking me seriously, and I would stop answering questions. Until then, the number of questions I get highly outnumbers the number of non-questions I get. So it’s staying.

mega masturbation

mega masturbatron.

Are there any negative side effects to masturbating once or more a day?

Absolutely not, masturbate away!

You really can’t masturbate too much unless it starts to interfere with other responsibilities. It can be unhealthy if you start choosing masturbation over seeing your friends, family, going to work, leaving the house, bathing… It’s also a good idea to stop masturbating if you start rubbing yourself raw and begin to hurt.

Aside from the extreme side of the spectrum, masturbation is a healthy part of your sexual buffet. Enjoy with gusto.

where to finish

what is the most satisfying sexual position for a male to finish in his partner?

I wouldn’t say that there is an answer to this question. In fact, if you get the chance to finish in your partner (condom or not) I think you’re going to be so consumed by how good it feels that you don’t really care what position you’re in. That being said, if I had to pick, I would say that the best position to finish in is the one that makes both partners feel equally as stimulated at the same time.

In some cases this might be doggystyle, where you can reach around and play with your partner. It might be missionary, where bother partners gets stimulated with each thrust. Missionary also has the benefit of being able to look your partner in the eye easily. Spooning is great because it allows not only the sexual intimacy of sex itself, but the emotional intimacy of being wrapped up in your partner.

I’ve been neglecting you tumblr, but it’s only because I hadn’t quite figured out how I wanted to use you yet. I will be posting some question replies here (and answering questions people ask me here) but I’m also going to be reblogging some favorite photos, chatting with friends from the net, and generally being random as usual. Hopefully I get into a nice flow of it soon.